You Didn’t Lose Your Pretty

Hey Everyone and HAPPY FRIDAY!

I felt that it was my OBLIGATION to make this post.

I think it’s incredibly easy as a mother to feel as though you’re no longer this hot little head-turning thing when you walk into a room, but rather heads are turning  because your shirt is probably inside out or they’re wondering how on Earth you found a scrunchy to throw in your hair in the year 2018. I see you. I get you.

Finding out I was pregnant with my daughter was one of the greatest days of my life. Very few things will ever come close and very few things will ever compare to the joy that is her. I went out of my way to tell my husband on NUMEROUS occasions, “Don’t forget about me.”

When I said that– I was never once speaking about ME, his wife, the mother of his child. I was speaking about CANDACE, the woman he fell in love with and the woman I so desperately didn’t want to lose.

I feared that when I became a mom that is all I would ever be. I wouldn’t be seen or heard any longer, but rather as “Mom.” I kept thinking I have done and seen all these incredible things. People find me funny and cute and charming and a little overly sensitive and sometimes a huge pain in the butt. But, see, I like ALL of those things. I didn’t want to be forgotten.

As a mother I wear makeup 4 out of the 7 days of the week. I own more workout/yoga pants than jeans. And I really only wear a dress, a maxi dress to exact, when I am too lazy to hunt for the other parts of an outfit. That’s reality.

I focus on the little things that bring a smile to my face. If you are a BRAND new mother, a mom of a toddler, teens or perhaps your children are all grown up..I think this is something we can all relate to. I make an extra large cup of coffee every morning, get ready for the day regardless of where I am going, take photos of every moment with my daughter (realize that even what you consider AWFUL photos of you..she will see as wonderful) and I sing and dance with her at the end of each day. That is my new happy. This is my new life.

It has taken some time, but I have come to realize that by giving birth and becoming a mother you are changing, but for the better. At this time, you are the best possible version of yourself. It’s the selfless, perhaps a little chubbier, happier, wildly addicted to caffeine, obnoxiously content version of you. Embrace this person. Realize that you were never lost and no one would dare forget about you.

 

XOXO Candace

 

 

2 thoughts on “You Didn’t Lose Your Pretty

  1. I love this! I just became a first time mom 2 months ago and find this post to be nothing but true. It’s good to know I’m not the only momma who’s going through the same situation of not wanting to be forgotten!

    1. Aww thank you!! I remember that time! I went through bad postpartum for the first 2 months and then BAM I just snapped out of it. I’m realizing now 2 years into being a new mom that more mothers feel and go through things that are rarely ever portrayed in social media or discussed. But love and enjoy this time and your body and your great new little human! And again, thank you so much 😊😙

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